Hello everyone,

Thank you so much for visiting my website.  I hope this blog will be helpful to you and give you a small taste of the types of things I will be covering.  I am going to share a little about me so that you may understand the way I work.  I personally have suffered Trauma, Adverse Childhood experiences and had ComplexPTSD for 28 years. Without being diagnosed I attended various counsellors, Psychologists and behaved in a way I was ashamed of. Finally, I began to educate myself and heal myself through this education and therapy.  From this I found my passion for wanting to share what I learnt with others.  You can heal yourself.  It is painful, and hard but you can do it.  You just need to learn about yourself and what it is in you that needs healing.  Academically I am a qualified Psychologist and a qualified and practising Psychotherapist. I have over 6 years of professional experience and many hundreds of hours supporting and giving therapy too extraordinarily complex individuals who have suffered Trauma/s.  Personally, I have a lifetime of experience and this has been shared with others who have also suffered from backgrounds that are considered to be ‘disadvantaged’.  I have an integrative approach which means that I focus on an individual instead of their diagnoses, behaviours, or labels.  My approach is very different to the medical model of Mental Health in that I believe diagnoses are helpful to explain what symptoms someone is experiencing , however I believe that most mental health disorders are ‘NORMAL REACTIONS’ to adverse situations andTrauma.  For example:  In terms of emotions a lot of people in theUK (especially men) are taught to ‘man up’, ‘get over it’, ‘move on’, and are praised for not crying, for holding it together, not making others uncomfortable by showing feelings.  This is then followed by an understandable feeling of being overwhelmed by these emotions that are unprocessed and then are ‘diagnosed’ for not knowing how to emotionally regulate.  This example is very crude and is written this way on purpose, as it shows the simplicity of how we are taught to ignore emotions and then shown to manage these by way of medications or a diagnosis that helps you to accept that this is just the way it is.  My experiences and learning to emotionally regulate as well as cognitively process these have helped me become a functioning, happy, useful member of society and this is shown to me in my working with others too.  Everyone that I have worked with who was ready to work on themselves, has been a success.  Everyone that I have spoken to who has suffered trauma agrees with my theories as they can relate.  This shows me that you do not have to live with your diagnoses or manage these, you can heal from them and suffer none of the symptoms you thought would be there forever.  I do not claim to know everything and all clients of mine know that they are the experts of themselves, not me, and I do not claim to know anyone better than the know themselves. That said, by helping to educate, support and help individuals heal safely with my expertise inTrauma has had more of an impact than whatever they were trying before.  Many of my clients have been with Psychiatric services for 20 years or more and in 6 months, stopped suicide attempts, took care of their needs, increased their self-compassion and confidence, and become generally happier and less overwhelmed by their thoughts, feelings and lack of control. My theory is that almost every painful experience that is carried throughout life is born from trauma, minor to major and this includes neglect.  I am not asking that people believe me, I am advising you to go find out what you do believe.  We spend lots of time researching for a car, or holiday, or scrolling through social media, but if you turned that research into yourself, onto your likes, dislikes, your motivations, your triggers, then you would find that things may get just a little clearer.  What do YOU think?

 Thank you for reading and looking forward to hearing your experiences 😊

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